CAN YOU REALLY BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX???
I came across an interesting article in Sunday's NY Daily News and it asked that very same question. The article started out by talking about high-profile couples who announced their split but with the intention of remaining friends. Some of the couples listed included rap/fashion mogul RUSSELL SIMMONS and his nutty wife KIMORA LEE SIMMONS, and actor MATT LeBLANC and his wife. In both examples, the couple insisted that they would remain friends after their mutual agreement to separate.
That got me thinking about us "normal" people and what would we do if we found ourselves in a similar situation: If you were dating someone and broke up with them for some reason, would you remain friends with them? I mean, let's be real: CAN YOU REALLY BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?
At first, I thought that was a rather simple question to answer. Sure, why the hell not? As long as the split was amicable, what's the big deal? Then I really began to think about it. What if the split was ugly? What if you found out that your partner had cheated on you, or you found out that your partner was a nutcase? Could you still remain friends with them, after the smoke cleared? Even more interesting, what if you were involved in a long relationship with your partner and they knew all of your innermost secrets? All of the nooks, crannies, the grimey crusty aspect of you, both good and bad; if you were to break up with them, could you really still be friends?
After thinking about it long and hard (and i'm only speaking for myself here), i'm not sure if I really could. I think for me anyways, there's that vulnerability factor that would exist. Once you past that point where you go from friends to intimacy and a serious relationship, to go back as being just friends would weird me out. There are quite a few people out there, on the other hand, that date people and break up and remain friends like it was nothing. I find that amazing. To answer that question (and again, i'm only speaking for myself), I'm not sure if I could handle that transition. Call me crazy.
So I pose the same question to you: CAN YOU REALLY BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?
Feel free to share your thoughts.....
On a lighter note: I came across a rather funny site that I think you'll enjoy. There isn't much to it, but the stuff that's there will remind you of the pitfalls of the overindulgence of alcohol. Consider it a PSA. CLICK HERE
DOLLAR DRAFT MADNESS continues tonight, and with the weather hovering near 70 degrees, the turnout should be great! And don't forget to catch the YANKEES home opener as well as the METS first road game at the bar, with $3 pints of Bud, Bud Light and Coors Light all afternoon! Bring your lunch!
NUFF SAID
8 comments:
I think you brought up the two most important factors in remaining friends with an ex. One, was the break up clean or dirty and how long was the relationship? Seeing as I have never had a "I never want to see you, I hope you rot in hell" kind of break up or been in a committed relationship for more than 6 months I've had no problems remaining friend post-relationship.
Good subject though...
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Depends on the circumstances of the breakup and amount of time that has passed since the breakup.
- GOLDIE
My man GOLDIE- just thinkin' about you! Hope all is well. It sounds like you've had plenty of experience of kickin' girls to the curb without lookin' back.....
Are you SURE no one has ever said to you, "I never want to see you again, rot in hell"
My memory serves me different. I remember it going something like this, "Don't ever call me, email me, IM me, text me, or see me EVER again!!!"
The Yankees suck, but the beer tastes good.
Hmmm, sounds like somebody who ate shrimps.
I have been friends with all my ex boyfriends, in fact I have straddled a great many of them at the bar....
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